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A must read for all involved in adoption!!!

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This book should be considered a must read for all of those touched by adoption. Joe Soll's wisdom and guidance will truly guide the adoptee in a journey of self exploration that will provide insight and healing of the issues encountered throughout adoption. The readings, activities and knowledge this book offers compares with no other out there.... except for his other book, Adoption healing for mothers. (also, not to be missed!!! )

The Voice of Adoptees

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I am so thankful that this books exists. I'm an adoptee, and I grew up with adoptive parents who made the most soul-harming decisions. No one in my family ever understood how I felt, and in turn I had no one to talk with or express my entangled feelings. Joe really translates all on an adoptees feelings and I feel for the first time ever someone REALLY gets it! It is a useful tool in my adoption healing!

Adoption Healing... a path to healing and living

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The author has brought the myths of adoption into the light. Exposing them so we have a better understanding of adoption and why there is a need for healing. He has given the memebers of the triad understanding on all sides. The exercises are easy to understand and do work. The book is a path to recovery and to living again. Thank you

The Truth Hurts but now there is hope..

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I am a birthmother who read this book expecting to find more about the adoptee's experience...from an adoptees point of view. Instead, Joe speaks to the pain that most all of us experienced including birthmothers, in the closed Adoption system. Letting go of old myths, shame, embarrassment and denial about what was like a crazy experiment gone awry, is not easy. He has given us exercises ,wisdom and rituals that help us face our deepest sadness and take back our power. I knew while reading this book that this author gets it. He understands and validates the unique pain that a birthparent, especially birthmothers feel. This is one book that every collection of adoption books should include.. no matter how one is involved in the adoption experience.

Adoption Means Loss

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This book deals with truth -- not the way people would prefer to hear it, but the truth. There is loss for all concerned. My pain of loss of 'mommy' felt validated by its words. I'm sure the feelings of doubt, fear, anxiety and loss that so many adoptees and birth parents feel will be validated, but the writer doesn't stop there. He gives you exercises to help deal with those feelings. Since so many people are affected by adoption I would like to see this become required reading in schools, certainly by teachers at all levels, and prospective adoptive parents. I strongly suggest that everyone read it. It will help you to understand yourself, your sister or brother, your child, your partner or spouse and your friend.